If you see rain pouring heavily and water starting to flood outside your home, you’ll naturally feel stressed and worry about whether it will enter your house.
If you only keep worrying and watching the water level, it may start rushing into your home within a few minutes, leaving you with no time to move your essentials.
Instead, if you replace worrying with problem-solving thinking as soon as you anticipate the situation, you’ll likely avoid a problematic situation or at least be prepared for it.
Worrying is like fooling yourself into thinking you care. Real care is finding solutions.
Similarly, we often complain about our ruined mental health or bad habits to our friends, saying things like, “I can’t get up in the morning,” “I feel so distracted all the time; I have a long to-do list that never seems to get done,” or “I get so angry for no reason, but then I regret it later.”
The next time you feel like complaining about your lack of control, pause and ask yourself: what are you doing to fix it? Have you consistently applied any advice your best friend or parents have given you?
We often stay in a certain state because change is uncomfortable and demands effort.
